THERE IS NO SEX STARVATION
30 March 2016
AFTER our birth, unless some tragic sexual abuse occurs, we grow into adults without having sexual intercourse.
There are many stories of people who reach 40 years or spend a lifetime without being sexually active after vowing to celibacy or just deciding not to have sexual partners.
It is therefore a fact that sex is not a need and human beings can do without it.
The perception that once one is sexually active, sex becomes a need is also false. Many have lost marriage mates through divorce or death and become sexually inactive for the rest of their lives.
It is an exaggeration to say people cannot live without sex. It is a theory created to satisfy the needs of a people bent on living immoral lives.
If a wife or husband travels, their marriage mate must stay faithful to them for as long as they are apart.
Sexual abstention is normal and easy to faithful people and those that do not entertain room for adultery.
So it is just an excuse for a man to say he is sexually starved that is why he is cheating on his wife. It is a shameful excuse that cheats use to seek justification for their shenanigans and should be condemned to the fullest degree.
Marriage vows clearly state that the two individuals are entering into a contract that should ideally only be undone by death. They are to love each other through the good times and the bad, in sickness and in health . . . until death does them part.
Such is the contract one has to live under when they enter into marriage.
The clause that says â€œin sicknessâ€¦â€ means ones marriage mate can be bedridden for months or go into a comma for years and their partner must still be with them, sitting by the bedside and remaining faithful in the marriage.
If one is prepared to do that, then waiting for a marriage mate who is in the diaspora to work for the familyâ€™s well-being and can only come once a year when on leave should not be an issue.
Granted, it is not the best thing to go to the diaspora leaving oneâ€™s spouse and or family, but in the unfortunate event of that happening, it is not a licence for either spouse to commit adultery.
No amount of loneliness or being left or abandoned by a partner can ever attempt to justify adultery. It is an act, if not sin, that should stand on its own and people who partake in adultery should merely be remorseful and sorry for their actions without trying to rationalize their actions.
When one is starved of food, they die of hunger. When one is â€˜starvedâ€™ of sex, they suffer no effect unless they decide to do wrong as a result.